I find that the above is one of the most common questions that new lolitas have especially those who start out wearing sweet. Dealing with the reactions of others to the fashion especially with OTT substyles can be weird at times, but I developed a set a different reactions for the different ways I'm approached.
- Are you in a play?
Why is this the one I always seem to get at my local mall which is decently far from the places in town that would even be hosting a play? Though I've felt like some people try to say this in a condescending manner, most just seem to be genuinely trying to fit what they're seeing into the closest reference they have. My general reaction is to just smile and nod especially since the question tends to get asked when I'm in the middle of a meetup.
- Halloween is over!
I've actually only heard the above once or twice. I just tend to ignore heckling remarks and keep on struttin'.
- Wow, what are you wearing?! That's so cool!
I get the excited reaction the most from younger people who are somewhere from mid teens to late twenties. I often times take extra time to talk with people that respond in a manner that suggests they genuinely love the fashion and to have a general small chat about Japanese fashion in general.
- Are you a princess?
That's my favorite reply from little girls, and I always feel really proud of capturing the lovely essence of the fashion. Making little kids smile with an outfit and giving them a sense of wonderment at the world to see a 'real' princess walking around is always a great feeling.
That's it for the main reactions that other people have to me and I have to other people. I've mostly experienced positive reactions while wearing lolita in public. Please let me know what experiences you've had in lolita and what ways you deal with the public attention.